Husbands need to learn how to esteem their wives by placing them first or see them better than  themselves. Often we are tide by the cultural role as the head of the home which make a lot of us to consider ourselves better and first before our wives and really that should not be the true order. Some men consider submitting to their wives as something that is only for their wives and they don’t need to do the same. Though it is clear from the word of God that it is the wives that submit to their husbands but we see from the scriptures that precede it that submission also need to be done by both husbands and wives. 


5:22 WIVES, SUBMIT yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

“The secret of the Godhead is submission to one another when this is brought into marriage, it will create unity in the home.”

So it’s clear that we are to both submit one to another though more of a big major role for the wives. The essence of submission to one another is so that we might increase our love bond and the unity of the mind. 


I know in a sense that this is hard for men to do, we love to prove that we are men indeed but the truth is our wives will be more submissive to us when we place them first before us. The word of God says to esteem each other better than ourselves. 

Philippians  2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in LOWLINESS OF MIND LET EACH ESTEEM OTHER BETTER THAN THEMSELVES.

Men need to consider being low  in the mind as a virtue they need to possess, being low does not mean  you’re weak. It is great strength for you when you are low, being low in the sense that you give place for your wife first, you let go of your self-will for her will. You allow her to take the first place in your heart after God. We saw it in the scriptures that in lowliness of mind esteem each other better than yourselves. This often I love to do, by considering my partner’s need better than my own, I let go of my own need for hers, I put my desires or will aside for hers, this I found to be great strength and have watched her practice the same and we have lived to practice this for some time now that we will say “dear your need first or I will like us to go with your own first” we have put that “first thing” for the other person than ourselves. This could become a life so strong in you that you act it out naturally between the two of you. The truth is when you practice this for some time she will begin to respond that way to you too, such that the submission and  how you both esteem each other becomes a way of life for you both. This will be a good thing especially when your children see you both living like this, it will create a culture in their minds that is better than how this world takes a woman. Your sons will live to cherish a woman and not be among those that beat their wives and your daughters will see the great value in submission to their husbands too. 

“When a husband learn to esteem his wife, it opens his wife’s heart to him the more and this will help her bring out her full potential and this will be a great profit to her husband “

I will end with this scriptures 

Philippians  2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

1 Timothy  4:15  Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all.


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