A lot will wonder, why is he always pointing Christ and His Church when he is talking about marriage and relationship. Well, the simple answer is that’s how the Lord designed it. If you do not see your marriage or relationship in this wise, you’re building on a wrong foundation. The secret of marriage or relationship that will move to marriage is best viewed with the lens of the word of God and seen clearly when you are able to project Christ and His Church. 


Christ is nurturing or building the church on His OWN SELF. His desire to bring His Church to where He is. To be like Him. 

Matthew  16:15 He saith unto them, But whom say ye that I am?  16:16 And Simon Peter answered and said, Thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God.  

16:17 And Jesus answered and said unto him, Blessed art thou, Simon Barjona: for flesh and blood hath not revealed it unto thee, but my Father which is in heaven.  

16:18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I WILL BUILD MY CHURCH; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

We must understand that woman  needs to be built. The first word where a woman was first made mention talked about her as  building. 

Genesis  2:22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, MADE he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

That word made means in the Hebrew builded, so the woman need to be built. We see in a place that says about a woman as a builder. 

Proverbs  14:1  EVERY WISE WOMAN BUILDETH HER HOUSE: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Woman is linked with building. That’s why when Jesus said upon the revelation that Peter saw that Thou art Christ the Son of the living God, and Jesus said upon this revelation that you saw will I build my church and the gate of hell will not prevail. It tells of how needful the church has to be build on Christ. We see that woman is the building. So God is building His Church with His words. You must learn to build your wife with God’s word. Don’t use wrong language to building her, the building will collapse. If you understand a woman as a building, you will understand how to deal with her. 


If Jesus is saying upon this Rock, that’s Christ, will I build my church and the gate of hell will not prevail then it tells that He is the foundation for that building which he builds His church. Let’s see scriptures 

1 Corinthians  3:11  For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid, WHICH IS JESUS CHRIST.

Foundation tells how a building will be like. There are times that the deeper the foundation the stronger the building or it height. The foundation holds the building of a house. When you have a strong foundation, you will surely have a strong building. Now, the husband represent Christ, every male man is the foundation for his house or his relationship. You must build on the strong foundation. You must be the foundation that your house can be built and stay strong and abide. When the wind come, your family must be able to stand. We are in a time of tense darkness. A time where nude, homosexual, gay, lesbian,  abortion and others are the other of the day, where ladies dress half naked and call it fashion, a time when children are been left untrained. You need to build your children. You’re the foundation for that home. Every man is responsible for what happens in his house. You must be the foundation that your home can be build on and be strong. You need to carefully build on it. You must build according to Christ want your home built. Darkness must not rule it. 


We must understand that love require some level of responses. Love need response. The church response to the love of God by looking up to Jesus. 

Hebrews  12:2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Looking up, tell we know that’s where our help will come from. Every woman must learn to look up to God, the man must learn to look up to God. The response of the church must always be to seek the Lord. 

Hebrews  11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

The church need to learn to come to God. The woman in this wise need to learn how to agree with his husband. She need to ensure she receive the teaching of her husband as it been revealed by the Lord to the home and also do her part. Parents are foundation for their children. Children observe or act according to what they see more. The woman need to learn to stay with her husband. The church has no other Saviour than Christ. So also the wife must know that she needs no other man than her husband. She need to stay with her husband. The wife will know peace when she stay with her husband as he leads the home to the Lord. 

Remember, the man represent Christ. 

Isaiah  26:3  Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, WHOSE MIND IS STAYED ON THEE: because he trusteth in thee.

We respond to God by staying on the Lord. You must trust your husband to bring God to the house. Just as Eve was taken from the man so is the Church taken from Christ. Don’t forget this, the man represent  Christ and the woman represent the church.