To tell us, the first disciple we have is our children and they need to be brought up in the way of the Lord. To disciple a people successfully we must learn to first disciple our homes. Even when you don’t have a child, you must develop yourself on how to disciple children. It could be in a child that is close or one in church. 
We must understand that discipleship is not to be done when the person is not there, it is more effective when you have the person there with you. Maybe an occasion occur the person must be available to learn. The period of discipleship is a period of learning. We will consider two scriptures together where this will be of help to us. 

Mark  11:12 And on the morrow, when they were come from Bethany, he was hungry:  

11:13 And seeing a fig tree afar off having leaves, he came, if haply he might find any thing thereon: and when he came to it, he found nothing but leaves; for the time of figs was not yet.  

11:14 And Jesus answered and said unto it, No man eat fruit of thee hereafter for ever. AND HIS DISCIPLES HEARD IT.

We saw Jesus saying to the fig tree that no man eat of it hereafter and then we saw that His disciples heard it. We must understand that when we do things like this before our children we are disciplining them, one day they will want to practice them when we are not around. That’s why when you switch on the television before them, when you’re not home they will switch it on themselves to see what you’ve been doing. We must to use that strength in children in the sense that they always love to try things out like we did before them. It’s a strength in them. No child can learn to cook good food by watching television every time and have never entered the kitchen to see how his or her mother prepare the meals. It must be done before them else they will start calling you when they get to school, mummy how did you even use to cook jollof rice? Then you’ll know your child might actually be going more hungry in school and that you have actually done nothing to bring the child up in the area of cooking. So we understand through what Jesus did  that He discipled them on the part of uttering a command by saying to the fig tree that no man eat of it hereafter in front of them and then we saw that scriptures says His disciples heard it. Jesus later taught them how to do what He did. That’s the essence of discipleship

Mark  11:20 And in the morning, as they passed by, they saw the fig tree dried up from the roots.  

11:21 And Peter calling to remembrance saith unto him, Master, behold, the fig tree which thou cursedst is withered away.  

11:22 And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.  

11:23 For verily I say unto you, THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL SAY UNTO THIS MOUNTAIN, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

When people don’t understand discipleship that’s when they hide secrets from people. People like that will only make what they have to die with them and never to live on for life. In discipleship you open up the secret of “the how” things are done. 
Your children need to hear your words of faith and the deceleration of your faith. Let me share what Charles Capps said in his book “God’s creative power for finances” when he shared how he spoke to the mountain of debt in his life even before her daughter.

” Several years ago,   I started a housing subdivision north   of   the town of England, Arkansas. I had borrowed money to  put in water, sewer,  and streets, and I had a mountain of debt. Jesus said to speak to the mountain and it would  be removed. I got all the mortgages out  and laid them on the  kitchen table. I called  my daughter Annette and said, “I want you  to be a witness that  I’m going to do what  Jesus said to do.” I  said: “Notes, listen to me, I’m talking to you.  Jesus said you would  obey me.   In  the  name  of  the  Lord  Jesus  Christ,  I command   you,   I   say   to   you,   BE  PAID  IN FULL…DEMATERIALIZE…DEPART…BE  GONE….   IN  JESUS’   NAME,   YOU WILL  OBEY  ME!” I  turned  around  and  walked  off  and  left  my daughter  standing  there.  She  had  seen  me  do  some strange  things  before.”

This I hold in high esteem. When I saw this I just renewed my mind towards it. Even when Jesus said to Peter to go take money from the money of the fish, He was teaching them His ways on how he can provide. So  discipleship is to be done in front of your children, please don’t leave them out. I have understood personally that children turn to do what their parents do in front of them and like I said in my book “Learning to discern your children’s path”  that when you do things before them consistently it stays in their heart. That’s how to disciple your children. 
Again we shall that Paul discipled Timothy, he already knew how Paul does this and Paul was intentional about it, even to the point that he knew his books and parchment where he normally keep it. 

2 Timothy  4:13 The cloke that I left at Troas with Carpus, when thou comest, bring with thee, and the books, but especially the parchments.

To have children that will be like us then we must disciple them by making them to see how we are walking with God. If you’re a praying father, then learn to bring your children around to knee beside you when praying by that you’re training them in the place of prayers. So we see Paul said this about this Timothy and you will see that link of and his disciples heard it. 

2 Timothy  2:2  AND THE THINGS THAT THOU HAST HEARD OF ME among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also.

We again saw that Paul was telling him to teach others, that’s how to keep the chain of discipleship and how to keep the chain of the grace of God in your life and make them span through for life. Paul said the same thing you heard of me among many witnesses, so it tells he has always been with Paul even to places and among many people, now he’s saying to him to do the same to others. No wonder the grace of God upon her grandmother was also upon him and her mother and then Paul said I saw this also in you. It’s a chain of discipleship. 

This has to be a great work that has been around the family. 

I have seen the measure of the grace of God upon some people’s life and thank God they discipled others into it. They have died now but that grace still lives on and still spans to become better. We must learn to disciple our children by doing things before them. That’s why as parents when we hear that our children which we send to school actually went elsewhere, we will be unhappy about it, why? Because we know they need to be in class so that their teachers can teach them, even when their teachers give us some report that they do not listen in class, we chastise them so that they can change because we paid for their school fees and they mustn’t fail but must do well in school. But that’s how discipleship is too. We need to disciple them so they can disciple others. That’s why the disciples never stopped there, we saw them having disciples too and that’s why the gospel as moved into places till date. We need to disciple our children so that the grace of God in our lives can stay with them too. How to keep what we have to live on in our children’s lives is through discipleship. God bless you.