The teen age is a very sensitive age, to me this is the time that parents ought to be closer to their teenage girls and boys. They often come up with new things or ways and they tend to respond to the exposure of their environment. Some have not been able to develop strength to reject the pleasures they see that’s why they need us. Though if they had a strong foundation from their childhood stage the work we will do at this stage will just be a little work. But nevertheless they still need us. This is the age where they need a friend that they can talk to.
“Parents ought to be friends with their children because of the times we are in”
Teens age is a period when they will like to hide, they have migrated from that age when they just open up easily especially their bodies, now that they notice some changes in their bodies which may affect the hiding of thoughts in their minds also. Hence may result to having another friend which they often like to be an opposite sex. I love what I heard that Kenneth Hagin said to his son that “no matter what you did am ready to listen even if you sin” we must be parents that are ready to listen and not quick enough to begin to criticize or condemn them even when we have given them the best discipline any parent could ever offer to their children. When we try to criticize them this will cause a danger to make them withdraw miles away from us. You need to become a friend that even when you felt bad or hurt as a parent you keep the feeling within and be strong enough to wrap them in then give them the necessary treatment as expected of you, the best is let it be under the guide of God’s word and love else you may spoil the whole thing. Best enough is to pray for them after they have reported themselves.
Parents must begin to talk to their teenagers about sex, talk to them about their bodies, let the husband handle the boys and the wife handle the girls. Talk to them about their organs be practical enough. Often some teenagers become corrupt because they ought to hear these things from home but they heard it from an outsider and in a way that could make them to give what they heard a trial. But as wise parents we should know how to talk to them about this and yet they feel so secured and they will say to us that “thank you mum or thank you dad”. The truth is we have teenagers that get involved in some practices that if only it get to us we will know we need to find time for our teenagers. The time we are in is a serious time that parents need to be closer to their children so that they can ear instructions and counsel.
Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:
Proverbs 19:20 Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.
Proverbs 20:5 Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
Become parents that give counsels to your teenagers and see them do well in life, because when they hear counsel your own peace is guaranteed as a parent.