The psychological aspect of children needs to be considered in marriage, especially how we behave before them. When parents tends to be people that fight at home it does not help the children at all, it can even affect them in their academics.
“Children reflect the kind of parents that they have.”
Often when you see how some children behave it could be related to how their parents love each other. When parents love each other and their children see it, it makes them more secure more than anything in this world.
“The highest form of security that children can have is when their parents can secure a firm love in the home.”
Understanding that our children reflect who we are should make us think and not allow us fight before our children. When you see a child that regularly abuses or says foul words, it is likely that he learnt them from his parents. Even as children of God we see how Jesus reflected the love between the Godhead to us.
John 17:23 I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and HAST LOVED THEM, AS THOU HAST LOVED ME.
John 17:26 And I have declared unto them thy name, and WILL DECLARE IT: THAT THE LOVE WHEREWITH THOU HAST LOVED ME may be in them, and I in them.
We see how Jesus was declaring the love between Him and the Father and how He brings us into that love. That’s how we should show love to our children and let them see how we love ourselves. When this is done in the home the children feel loved, feel secured and could even tell it to their mates in school. So today show love to your wife and as a wife show love to your husband for the sake of your children.