I know that people will find this topic very interesting and waiting to read what it will be about. Husbands need to always win their wives heart. Often times the place you put a woman in your heart matters to her alot. It can determine whether she will be bold or she will be timid. When you allow your wife to have your full expression she will definitely reflect who you are. Husbands will do well to win their own wives by speaking well of them in the midst of their family and among people. As usual, I’ll link up my thoughts to how CHRIST does this to us. That’s my foundation for marriage and it defines to me what I am, even Christ and His Church.
You win your wife through these:
1. SPEAK WELL OF HER IN YOUR FAMILY.
This have tried out in front of my mum, ensuring I speak well of my partner in front of her, always telling her the things that she has done greatly for me, and I see that open her heart up the more for my partner, I learn this from Jesus. He spoke well of us before the Father.
John 17:7 NOW THEY HAVE KNOWN that all things whatsoever thou hast given me are of thee.
17:8 For I HAVE GIVEN UNTO THEM the words which thou gavest me; and THEY HAVE RECEIVED THEM, and have known surely that I came out from thee, and they have believed that thou didst send me.
We need to understand this conversation here. He was actually speaking well of us before the Father. He was speaking good of us before the Father. Even this alone will open wide the Father’s heart more for us. If it can work among the Godhead then it can work in our marriages. Husband, learn to speak good of your wife before your families and even among your friends. When you do this it make open the heart of people for your wife but if all you keep saying is her bad then expect people to hate her the more. Who you speak well of, people will surely cherish, see how the Father loves us before of Jesus.
2. DON’T GIVE YOUR WIFE A SHARE OF WHAT YOU HAVE BUT GIVE HER ALL THAT YOU ARE.
Husbands are often afraid to give themselves to their wives, due to one reason or the other. But when you learn to release the all of you to your wife. She will live your life anywhere she goes. That’s not been possessive. She just act out who she is through you. The Father did this to the Son and the Son did just the same thing to us. Are you ready?
John 5:26 For as the Father hath life in himself; SO HATH HE GIVEN TO THE SON to have life in himself;
So the Father gave the Son that same life He has. You must learn to sustain your wife by the life that you have. So Jesus also did this to us. Let’s see… We see Jesus confirming what happened in the above chapter so He said.
John 17:2 AS THOU HAST GIVEN HIM POWER over all flesh, THAT HE SHOULD GIVE ETERNAL LIFE TO AS MANY AS THOU HAST GIVEN HIM.
Husbands too are life givers to their wives. You don’t share your life you give your life. The life is enough to be given even to sustain yourself when all is given. The communication of life to your wife is the gaining of life into the same measure. Abundant life is what sustains a man even when He has given all. No wonder He was saying he has come to give life abundantly.
John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I AM COME THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE LIFE, AND THAT THEY MIGHT HAVE IT MORE ABUNDANTLY.
When the communication of life is abundant in the home, even people that come around will smell life. This has happened to me before. There is a way you sense abundant life. I know the church where this happened to me. Husbands are life givers and not life sharers. Love is the full expression of life. Not just any kind of love but God’s kind of love. You win your wife by this and then she will love you the more. The bride of the Lamb loves the lamb. Win your wife’s heart with your life.